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Wednesday, February 19, 2014

Emotional Intelligence

by Daniel Goleman

From my last article you know that I was going to read this book.  I actually listened to it for free on youtube and you can too.  I has loads of good information in it that can be applied, in my opinion, to everyone.

Emotional Intelligence is something that isn't taught in most schools, but should be.  Emotional Intelligence is the knowing of what emotion your feeling, how to cope with that feeling, and explain to someone else how your feeling.  It is also how you see motions in other people so you can have empathy for that person's feelings and help them cope with those feelings.  I've never been to a psychologist, but in movies I've seen they always ask, "How does that make you feel?"  To me that one question is that start of teaching someone emotional intelligence.

There is a lot of information in the book so my suggestion is you listen to or read the book yourself.  It may help you find and area in emotional intelligence that you need to work on.

For me personally I have a hard time putting my emotions into words to tell someone else.  I also am not very empathetic to others emotions even though I can read their facial expressions well.  The main thing that has held me back is anxiety and fear.  I've worked on it through the years so it's not so bad now, but it used to be quite bad.  I would almost have a panic attack in some situations.  One book that helped me a lot is The Fear Project by Jaimal Yogis.  The other thing that has helped lately is not suppressing my emotions and keeping emotional elements in my activities.  It makes my life easier and less stressful. You can see this in action by watching the Olympics.  If an athlete looks like they are focused on enjoying the sport they are competing in rather than dwelling on whether they will be better than the other people, they tend to do well effortlessly.  That is why sometimes the underdog who thinks they have no chance of beating their competition goes out and has the performance of their life, and they people who are expected to win have many troubles.

I again suggest that everyone listen to or read this book.  If you find something you need to work on search for books, videos, and even podcasts on that subject.  Also I suggest you teach your kids emotional intelligence, because more than likely the school won't and it can greatly improve their lives.

Here is the audio for the book.

Wednesday, February 12, 2014

Emotional Resurrection

Before you start reading this article I'd like to say what I write about may not pertain to everyone.  You may not be affected as much as me from electronic devices.  I'm just writing from my own experience in hoping it will help people have a more positive life that are like me or who know someone like me and can pass on the information to them.  Also this article will be a segway from my last article(The Lost Art of Entertaining) to another article I will write after this one with my thoughts from a book called Emotional Intelligence.

About a month ago I started have a money problem and I went into a controlling survival mode about it.  This problem had to be fixed.  I was focused.  Doing the budget, working overtime, and keeping track of our spending.  On top of that it's tax time of the year and having to shovel snow every other day.  I was getting tired, cranky, and came to a point where I didn't want to do anything or talk to anyone.  My brain felt fried.  My wife kept asking me what she could do to help and I told her, "Just leave me alone."  I went to my bedroom and laid down for awhile.  Then I went to my drawing table and worked on my drawing while listening to music.  A song came on itunes radio about how much God loves me and I started softly singing along.  While I was singing and being reminded of how much God loves me it was like a switch turned my emotions back on.  I listened to a few more songs while I drew more, just taking in how emotional I felt.  Then I went and hugged my wife and told her I'm sorry and that I love her very much.  She couldn't believe how much I changed in about an hour.  I thought to myself, "There has to be something to this!"

These are the thoughts that I came up with:

Suppressing emotions can lead to depressing especially in right brained people like me.  I've been emotional all my life.  A lot my life, looking back, I suppressed those emotions, therefore I've dealt with a lot of depression.  I think a lot of people do this.  Every year, at least lately, we hear about some celebrity overdosing on depression related medication or committing suicide because of it.  Most actors or actresses are right brained as are people in the music industry.

It's harder to learn from sources that have no emotional element.  Think back to high school.  Who were your favorite teachers and why?  More than likely they were the funny ones or the ones who told stories as examples about what your learning.  Laughing is an emotion and stories are have emotional elements to them.  I had a hard time in school especially with doing homework.  Reading textbooks just made me want to take a nap.  Now if I read a book like Unbroken, I can't put it down.  I remember most of the details even the historical parts.  Philip Yancey is a great writer and uses stories throughout his books and writes with emotion.  Now think of music or movies you love.  How can most of us repeat every line after only listening or watch them about 5 times?  Music brings emotions out that is why we SING the alphabet song.

Being emotional makes you a better leader.  I've read books that say differently.  In some instances maybe this is true, but lets look back in history.  David was a great leader.  A man after my own heart God calls him.  Did he have emotional restraint?  Nope, he danced like a buffoon in the middle of the street.  Abraham Lincoln was a great story teller.  He wanted the slaves freed so badly and with that emotion he wrote the Emancipation Proclamation.  Martin Luther King Jr. also was a great leader of the elimination of segregation and civil rights, even with death threats if he didn't stop.  Did Jesus keep his emotions in check?  His love for us drove him to the cross to die for our sins.  In all these instances being emotional helped these people stay focused on what they were trying to accomplish which to me is the definition of being a good leader.

Thanks for reading and as I said there will be another article after this one after I read Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman.  A book that is recommended in a lot of places on the internet that I have been visiting lately.







Thursday, January 9, 2014

The Lost Art of Entertaining

Before the invention of electricity what did people do for entertainment?  They would have gatherings at the town hall or a person house.  Some people may have brought their instruments to play, people would dance, play games, play sports, or just talk to one another.  Some people would be good at telling stories like Si from Duck Dynasty.  Perhaps even someone like me would bring a piece of artwork for people to see.  Farmers and other people with similar trades could share information on how to better their businesses or work together.  These gatherings were a way for people to be the entertainers themselves, giving everyone a chance to participate in the entertainment in some way.

So what happened to people that this lost art of entertaining each other diminished.  Everyone like to be entertained, but not many people do much to entertain others.  The difference is people of the 2000's are addicted to being entertained.  Facebook, YouTube, Twitter, Pinterest, Netflix, video and computer games, and even the fading regular television watching is what people do all the time.  I used to be you could only do these things at your computer.  Not any more; we have these entertainment super havens we can take with us anywhere.  Smartphones, tablets, and for those people who don't mind carrying the weight the laptop computer.  People are in a continuous perpetual state of being plugged into entertainment.  This doesn't give us much time to really think for ourselves.

In my opinion these new electronic entertainment gadgets that everyone is becoming or are already addicted to is suppressing the part of people's brains that lets them be creative.  It doesn't allow them time to think of ways to entertain others.  These devices take up so much of their time that they don't practice their talents that they could share with other people.

A part of my life is a good example of this.  I used to be addicted to computer games and using the computer itself.  Every time I would think, "what can I do today?"  I always thought of using the computer first.  It took up so much of my time that I didn't do much else.  I didn't draw, I didn't exercise, I didn't even eat much especially healthful foods.  I became overweight and even less sociable than I normally am.  After I stopped using the computer and playing games on it hours on end  I started to draw more and my drawing skills have drastically improved.  I also lost 20 lbs. without trying.  I took up bicycling more and other activities and now I to my goal weight.  Lately I started watching TV less and I can think more clearly.  I come up with more jokes to make my wife laugh, even come with with better(I think) Christmas gifts to give her.

So this year think about what is taking up your time and if it's electronic entertainment that takes up a lot of your precious time; think about giving your brain a break so you can entertain others!

Friday, March 30, 2012

Being Courageous Through God's Eyes

Numbers 14:7-9

New International Version (NIV)
7 and said to the entire Israelite assembly, “The land we passed through and explored is exceedingly good. 8 If the LORD is pleased with us, he will lead us into that land, a land flowing with milk and honey, and will give it to us. 9 Only do not rebel against the LORD. And do not be afraid of the people of the land, because we will devour them. Their protection is gone, but the LORD is with us. Do not be afraid of them.” 
 

1 Samuel 17:45-47

New International Version (NIV)
 45 David said to the Philistine, “You come against me with sword and spear and javelin, but I come against you in the name of the LORD Almighty, the God of the armies of Israel, whom you have defied. 46 This day the LORD will deliver you into my hands, and I’ll strike you down and cut off your head. This very day I will give the carcasses of the Philistine army to the birds and the wild animals, and the whole world will know that there is a God in Israel. 47 All those gathered here will know that it is not by sword or spear that the LORD saves; for the battle is the LORD’s, and he will give all of you into our hands.”

                                                                                                                                  

     After reading these two passages of scripture I want to jump up and shout, "Yeah!, The battle is the Lord's!  I can do anything God assigns to me!"  That's an easy thing to say when life is going easy, but then the car breaks, work get slow, people you love get hurt, or some other bad thing happens.  It's not so easy to be courageous then.  The three men were in bad situations though.
     Joshua and Caleb explored a land that had a larger population, better weapon technology, and were bigger and stonger (they called them giants) than the Israelites.  God gave them the task of defeating these people and taking over their land.  Everyone else in the group that scouted out the land with Joshua and Caleb was too frightened to wage war with these people.
    David was to visit his brother on the front lines of battle with the Philistines.  While he is there he hears Goliath, a 9' 9" giant, challenge anyone to a 1on1 fight to the death to decide the battle.  Nobody else in the Israelite army dared to accept this challenge.
    What about these men made them courageous compared to everyone else?  They trusted in the Lord.
    Joshua and Caleb trusted that when the Lord says he will give us this land that it means he will give us this land.  Doesn't matter what the people living there look like or how much better their weapons are.  David knew that the Philistines would be defeated by Israel and since the challenge to decide that was first to defeat Goliath, then that is what was going to happen.  The difference between these three men and "the crowd" was the way they looked at the situation.  These three men looked at the situation through God's perspective.
    Recently my car is in desperate need of repairs.  My first thought by human nature would be "Great, there goes my savings account!", but if I look at it in God's perspective it would be " I'm blessed to have enough in the savings account to pay to fix my car!"
    So when life isn't going as planned.  When if feels like the walls are falling in.  When God gives you a difficult mission.  Read these two passages and receive some courage to take on the giants of your life.
 

Wednesday, March 7, 2012

Music Styles

     Lately I've been thinking about the different styles of music and why they are what they are.  So let's go through and dissect them into their different parts.
     Let's start out with one of the most controversial ones of the last century, rap music.  Broken down rap music is mostly a simple beat that makes you want to dance with very long complex lyrics that rhyme.  The lyrics seem to be the most important part or it is what the artist wants you to focus on usually.  The lyrics are mainly just the artist talking with emotion in their voice instead of singing. Now if you made the instrumental part more complex it would take away from the lyrics since a singer would have a wickedly hard time fluctuating their voice that fast with how much they have to say.  Rap music has been given a bad rap in the past due to artist putting in vulgar messages that glorify being in a gang and being addicted to sex.  Also there has been a lot of subpar rap that becomes popular just because it has a good beat and is easy to dance to making it appealing to drunk people.  True rap will focus on the message and have a good beat and will leave you with know what point the artist was trying to get across to the listener.
    Classical music is not as popular anymore, it is rare to even hear it on the radio in my area now.  Classical music is only instrumental with the full scale of notes and a plethora of instruments.  Some of it makes you want to get up and dance in a different way than rap music, in a more swaying motion compared to a jumping motion.  The slower tempo classical is sometimes sung with.  This is called Opera and seems to be enjoyed by very few people in the United States.  As far as I know from what the TV tells me it is popular in Europe.  Now as far as the faster tempo classical music, imagine someone trying to sing to that.  It would sound horrendous and the person would have a very difficult time fluctuating their voice to it.  Most of the famous classical music is pre-1900 (Mozart, Bach, Brahms), but some newer classical does become popular.  The scores from movies become CD soundtracks and they also sometimes can be heard being played by symphonies in concert halls.  Classical music my become less and less heard, but it will never fade out completely.
    Rock Music is very popular and we hear it every day on the radio, in stores, and in advertisements.  Rock music is a simpler form of music than classical.  It is usually a mix of electric guitar, electric bass, drums, keyboard, and a singer.  The music is a harmony of these instruments.  In older rock music they had some guitar solos where just the guitar would play by itself changing many chords in more of a classical type of style(don't we all miss that?).  The electric instruments give and "edge" to the music.  The lyrics play an equal part as the instrumental in rock music.  They are sung rather than talked as in rap music.  They lyrics are much shorter, but still can convey a message in the song that the artist wants people to hear.   Rock music seems to be staying close to the top of most popular music types and I believe it will stay there.
     Most other music falls somewhere in between these two or mixes them.  Swing and Ska music is rap music with some more instruments here and there.   Country is pretty much Rock music with more acoustic instruments and someone with a southern accent to their voice.  Pop music is a rap music beat with more of a singing voice and shorter lyrics and is the most popular (as far as what the TV tells me).  Heavy metal is a more edgier form of rock music where the instruments are played faster and with distortion.
    Well, that is my take on the different types of music and I hope it helps you better understand why different music is the way it is and gives you a better understanding of why people like different music.

Sunday, February 26, 2012

Government in the Right Places

     Some questions I've been pondering lately is "Should the federal government be making laws and regulations for the whole nation?" and "Should the government make a decision to where my money(taxes) funds organizations and charities?" Obviously on the first question they have to make some laws and regulations else everything would be chaos. Would it be better though for just states to make laws and not the federal government?  To me it seems it would cost us less in taxes this way.  What about conflict between states where one state something is legal and another it is not?  Say someone buys marijuana in one state that it is legal and takes it across into a state that it is not.  What do we do then?  For people in Michigan we know that the illegal firework laws don't get enforced much.  People everywhere in Michigan go to neighboring states and buy these illegal fireworks.  I really don't care that they do so, but what if something I don't want in my neighborhood  that is illegal arrives there easily because it is legal in another state?  Well, I could call the cops and they take care of it.  If this illegal activity becomes popular like illegal fireworks how much would it cost to enforce these laws?  This is where I see a federal law that mandates all states to have certain laws that would effect people negatively.  I believe it would be easier to enforce and in so costing us less tax dollars.
     Now to the second question, "Should the government make a decision to where my money(taxes) funds organizations and charities?"  The government gives money to charities and organizations without out our consent.  Some of the charities are places that do some good, some places I would rather see go bankrupt and shut down.  Let's say all these places that the government gives our tax dollars to are places that do good in the world.  If the government just gives these people money and that's their only involvement then this may be acceptable.  If you know anything about government you know that this is not what happens.  No, the government wants to make sure the money is being spent wisely so they hire someone to oversee the funds that are given.  You have to pay this person right?  So the money the charity receives gets cut some or they just allocate more tax dollars to pay for this employee.  This employee may oversee a number of charities and organizations.  Well, that person can't just fly around the country and make sure the charity and organizations are spending their federal donations right.  So they hire people at state level and maybe someone at local level.  There may be more levels, but I believe there is at least these three.  That's a lot of tax dollars being spent just to manage donation money.  Do you think that the federal government will let them spend the money on things they really need?  Only if it is within certain parameters is my guess.  Now let us say the government didn't give to charities and organizations.  Let's say the government just lowers our taxes and we give to the charities and organizations that we WANT to support with no overhead of federal government.  If this happened then the charities and organizations I think would get more money and they could spend it on anything they need.  As a side bonus it would probably lower their taxes!

Saturday, February 25, 2012

Purpose of this Blog

You are probably thinking, "What is this blog going to be about?"  Well, it is going to be about just random things I'm thinking about.  Some thoughts will be about God, Christianity, and the Bible.  Some will be about politics, current events, history, or other world views. And some thoughts will be just about something random.